Are the old men really where its at?!!
In the words of our new Queen "Ari Lennox - don't date these niggas till your 43..". Soooo I gotta wait till im almost dried up before a nigga will act accordingly?!! -_______-. As I enter the next chapter of my life "the dirty thirties", I find myself drawn to older men. The idea of a fine man with all of his shit together just does something to my spirit.
But are older men really the better catch? Women do mature faster, but that does not mean a man can't still be dumb in his 40's. They say....
Older men are sexually advanced, they know what to do with the pussy...
For the most part yes, but I've had an old nigga nut in 2 mins, twice and I just ....
Older men are more settled, they wont put you through unnecessary drama...
Now this I would have to agree with whole heartedly, Larry aint for none of that drama, (Larry seems like an old nigga name idk..lmao).
Older men are financially capable to take care of you...
Well usually they willing to pay the bare minimum, but yes an older nigga is more likely to pay for you and your homegirl too.
This one time at Summer Camp...
Well not really at Summer Camp, but I had to get yall attention lmao!. I did in fact deal with an older man, I dealt with two to be exact. One was when I was 18 and he was.... 31 lmao! Shut up shut up! Soo anyways, me being fresh out of H.S on my way to college I wasn't looking for anything serious, just someone to fuck and buy my weed. We shall call him "lightskin" , me and him actually met at my great Aunts funeral. AGAIN SHUT UP SHUT UP!! He was fine tho I'm not going to lie, and he was sweet, I wasn't a virgin so I knew what this was but I wanted to ensure my needs were met also. Long story short the nigga got pussywhipped and asked to meet my dad one day...
BLOCKED!!! Like oh no big baby what is you doing?! That was just a jail case pending waiting to happen. The second due I met at my old job while working out, he was a Carlton looking muthafuka!! Im talking polo down, shirt tucked in with the belt Carlton!! But he was the Manager of the production team soooo $$$$$$$$$$$ lmao. We went out a few times, until he got drunk af one night and started telling me how he wanted to KILL HIS EX WIFE.
Like I wish he would have just not said that shit, I would of been on somebody beach, but them are those RED FLAGS we just can't ignore lmao!! What's the difference between a Sugar daddy, AKA trick and just an older man your dating?
THE Actions that follow...
It's one thing for a nigga to give you that hot $40, but did he feed you? Check on your well being? See if your soul is right? Honestly, older men have the emotional tact down pact and thats for me what is winning here. Younger men feel like they can't be emotional, too much damn testosterone which makes them unreachable in this sense. Like nigga if I'm having a bad day or I seem off why wouldn't you want to figure out whats wrong? If I wanna pursue a new venture or I want to try something different why can't you just support me? Uplift me? INSPIRE ME?!! Every older man I've encountered has always spoken positivity into me and whatever avenue I pursue. Men my age or a bit younger tend to lack compassion and sensibility which leads to this terrible dynamic of shit we call dating. For me older men have always had a sense of understanding, hell they been here longer than us of course they understand the world better than us. Now don't go out and fuck your friend's father or no shit like that, but understand as a grown as woman the probability of you finding a man over the age of 25 but under the age of 40 who understands his purpose and how to be a mate is VERY, VERY slim....
I will however still continue my dating journey to find Mr PillowTalk hahaha!!